Here’s a 25 minute extended interview (Pt1) with the Love Bytes crew:
Download the 25 minute segment HERE (Direct Link)
A RECENT INTERVIEW WITH “T” THE DATING COACH:
I’ll fill you in below on things like why I’ve been M.I.A., outlooks for the future, more free stuff and a little bit about what you’re learning here and from whom you’re learning it.
Let me first say how sorry I am for neglecting my loyal bloggers and fans. We have been flat out booked with overseas workshops and testing out what looks like the soon-to-be 5th Pillar of Seduction, so that’s why I’ve been gone. I didn’t want to say anything until I was sure that it is deserving of such a position among the other four core principles.
I’ve also been coming to you. From Africa, the Middle East, North America and Asia, our goal to extend Seduce In Seconds’ ideology is spreading like wildfire. Everyone from students to judges has applied my DATING TECHNIQUES to other uses that I’ve never even conceived. It has now inspired me to actually publish my original book, Weapons of Mass Seduction . I currently also have two more in the making: one for women and one for general life people skills called The Social Chameleon .
Unfortunately for now this blog is and will always be about seduction, picking up the people you want, maintaining a good relationship and having a fucking awesome time.
A 5th Seduction Principle?
I talk about it extensively in this interview but do not list it as my 5th Pillar. See if you can guess what it is. Remember: a ‘pillar” is an overarching concept from which techniques are derived. Pillars are broad and encompassing while techniques are specific and practical.
For those just tuning back in, the 4 Pillars of Seduction are the principles that have founded the fastest communication and seduction techniques in the world for the past three years. You may be thinking, “Hey? Haven’t you been around since 2003?” and the answer is yes, you’re right… sort of.
Technically I’ve been around since 2004 but only started by studying other people’s methods (before anyone had ever heard of The Game ). The problem was that after wasting my time and money at 17 workshops and many forum-buddy outings I still hadn’t ever actually approached anyone. In fact, it took me well over a year to approach for my first time.
Once I started, I saw small results. I participated in a certain course called Demonic Confidence, which I don’t really recommend. Basically I was asked to try it for free and review it. The issue was that I had to approach 60 women a day with a wingman for 21 days while trying a different exercise each day (for example, “Pay a moving/walking woman a sincere compliment and stop her in her tracks”). That’s a total of 1,260 women I had to approach in that time period.
WANT TO AVOID APPROACHING 10,000+ WOMEN?
Not bad practice, but certainly not a quick pickup. It is just too much work and too much pain, so I’ve personally made the commitment myself to do 10,000 approaches with 100 each dedicated to any technique I can get my hands on. I’ll try anything. After poo-pooing with direct approaches and “direct game” (a style of starting conversations by telling people you’re into them from the start) for three years I realized that life’s too short not to try it all.
THE FOUR CORE PRINCIPLES OF ANY SEDUCTION
Of the several thousand techniques and approaches, the major things that stuck out as being consistently present in successful techniques were:
- 1) Counter Intuitiveness (for differentiation and rarity)
- 2) Push/Pull (for attraction)
- 3) Playfulness (for all of the above and conversational success)
- 4) Indifference (wanting but not needing; having principles and managing your intake of validation)
The fifth one is coming. We’ve been testing it thoroughly across demographics, geographics and psycho-graphics because we believe it is an ethical sin to send people who are concerned about improving themselves into situations that could potentially end up unpleasant.
Here’s an interview where I discuss:
Approaching, direct game, anxiety and a whole range of other frequently asked questions about dating for both men and women.
WE also talk about what being “confident” means as well as the blueprint for a good first impression with some examples of approaching styles and how to be “congruent” using different pickup styles.
The discussion is about how this works in cultures and contexts where picking up people is just not the norm.
Here are some new perspectives on both some of my own and some of the community’s basic seduction techniques. We cover the evils of learning written lines and the importance of having dynamic social processes for seducing women (and men) quickly.
I know I’ve been saying I will give you some standard “litmus tests” to help you strengthen your ability to judge situations, tough points in conversation and deliver fine tuning. I know I said, “you will get them in the course” so here, I’m giving you just one. This, however, is the most important one.
My gift to you; enjoy. Here’s the link again. Sign up to the mailing list to get part of this pod-tutorial/interview/good learning thingy.
Here’s the direct download mirror again:
Download the 25 minute segment HERE (Direct Link)
The Love Bytes guys are considerably more conservative than myself (but then again, most people are), but I think we’ve hit some common ground.
They had some great perspectives and this will definitely help your game. Stay tuned for part two.
PS: I’m back in Sydney and have new openings for workshops worldwide.
PPS: My method is going to the print house! Email Amy at [email protected] to secretly reserve it ahead of time and get it six months before it hits the shelves!